Monday, June 30, 2008

Dr. Hilfiker

When Sadie was just 2 weeks old (29 weeks gestational age), she stopped tolerating her feedings. Before that time she was a superstar eater and had quickly been able to take more and more breastmilk every two hours.

So, when she started projectile vomiting after every feed, screaming every time even a small amount of milk was put in her mouth, pooping blood, and acting like she was in pain every second of the day, we were all very, very concerned. She was taken off of oral feedings and from that point forward was taking all of her nutrients through IV. Immediately the doctors ordered x-rays to look for signs of NEC (Necrotizing Enterocolitis). For those of you fortunate to not know what NEC is, here is the gist of it:

"NEC involves infection and inflammation that causes destruction of the bowel (intestine) or part of the bowel. Although it affects only one in 2,000 to 4,000 births, or between 1% and 5% of neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) admissions, NEC is the most common and serious gastrointestinal disorder among hospitalized preterm infants. Severe cases of NEC may require removal of a segment of intestine. Sometimes after removal of diseased bowel, the healthy areas can be sewn back together. Other times, especially if the baby is very ill or there is spillage of stool in the abdomen, the surgeon will bring an area of the intestine or bowel to an opening on the abdomen (called an ostomy). Despite a significant mortality risk, long-term prognosis for infants undergoing NEC surgery is improving. "Surgical NEC" survivors are at-risk for complications including short-bowel syndrome, and neurodevelopmental disability."

As you can imagine, the more we read about NEC, the more terrified we became. We were thrilled when each and every x-ray came back negative. Yeah! No signs of NEC! We still don't know what's making her sick, but thank goodness that she doesn't have NEC!

At the same time it was determined that both Sadie and Linus had a congenital heart defect. Great.

In utero, all babies have a connection between the aorta and the pulmonary artery which allows oxygen-rich blood that should go to the body to recirculate through the lungs. But, in some babies this duct remains open and becomes a problem, PDA, which causes very inefficient blood circulation.

Luckily, there is medication to try to fix the open duct. This medication worked great on Linus who took it and after two doses had a closed duct and no further complications. Sadie, however, couldn't take any medication by mouth, but even worse is the effect this medication has on the intestines. The doctors tried one round and we all agreed that there was no way we were putting that medication back into her system.

So, we were horrified when she had to undergo heart surgery in her present condition. We were told this type of operation is very common in preemies, but they had to make a two inch incision in her back and deflate a lung to get at her heart. I don't know about you, but even if this surgery is routinely performed on every person in the northern hemisphere, it doesn't make me feel any better that my poor sick child is going to intentionally have her lung deflated and her heart tinkered with.

I think I was in such a state of shock that the surgery itself seemed to happen quickly. Before I knew it, Sadie was back in the NICU with a bandage on her back, but thankfully with a closed duct too.

Unfortunately, fixing her heart did not fix any of her eating issues. She continued to get sicker and sicker, while retaining so much water that she doubled her weight. She was constantly in pain and unhappy, couldn't eat anything, and had so much stuff pumped in through her IV that it had to be changed daily because of her collapsing veins. For over a month they performed x-rays multiple times a day looking for any sign of NEC since that seemed the only logical explanation, but every x-ray came back negative. She had multiple tests using barium pumped into both ends to see if there were any blockages (which came back inconclusive). Finally, the doctors decided not to put her through any more stress and pain, and decided to withhold any more tests or x-rays for awhile to see if she would improve. The x-ray tech came in to take one last picture,

and there, clear as day, was a huge gas bubble in her abdomen. A sure sign of severe NEC. We were given 50/50 odds for her survival.

Sadie was rushed by ambulance to Children's Hospital where they perform life-saving operations including exploratory surgery for NEC.

Enter Dr. Hilfiker.

After Brian and I ran into the NICU at Children's we met with the surgeon who would be performing one of her many surgeries. Dr. Hilfiker is a perfectionist and she was determined to figure out what was happening to Sadie. For 4 hours Brian and I sat in a small waiting room not knowing if Sadie was going to survive while our other sick child was in a different hospital miles away. This was it. This was NEC - our worst fear realized. And not only NEC, but severe NEC which had an even smaller chance of survival and a greater chance of complications throughout her life.

Finally, we saw a tiny little bundle being wheeled back into the NICU, and Dr. Hilfiker called us into a small conference room. At least she was alive! But now what? Apparently, the surgeon had found a big knotted mass of half-dead swollen bloody intestine when she opened up Sadie. She said it had clearly been there for a long time, probably since the beginning, and she wasn't sure why it was never picked up on any of the tests. She ended up removing a little over a foot of Sadie's intestine leaving both open ends sticking outside (an ostomy) so that her poor abdomen could heal.

I don't know how an ostomy is for an adult, but having a huge piece of sticky tape with a plastic bag covering Sadie's exposed intestines on such a little baby was even worse than it sounds. It leaked constantly, the sticky tape gave her a huge rash that started to peel and give her sores, and she screamed every time they had to change it (which was often). But this little fighter dealt with her ostomy for an entire month before she was well enough to undergo another surgery to stitch it back together. And only then was she allowed to eat by mouth. (Yes, for over 2 months she received all of her nutrition by IV. Not only that, for some time she had to keep a large tube running through her mouth into her stomach with a constant vacuum to suck up any stomach acid that would leak into her open intestines which gagged her constantly and occasionally ripped her stomach lining).

After her surgery to repair her intestine, Sadie had a short recovery in the NICU and was released home. Hurray! What a long road - only three and a half months old and she already had three serious surgeries, but that little fighter was as feisty as ever. When she got home she was quite a bit smaller than Linus, fluorescent yellow from her severe jaundice, and absolutely ravenous from not eating for almost 3 months. (Here she is trying to eat Linus' forehead:)

After many months and a ton of specialists and medication, we were able to control her jaundice, put a little weight back on her and stabilize her feedings. (That is a story in itself, but will have to wait until later). But this was not the last we were to see of Dr. Hilfiker.

When Sadie was 8 months old, her huge hernia she developed at her incision site had started to get in the way of her development. She wasn't able to sit up properly and no amount of intervention from physical therapy could help her. So, another appointment was made, and another surgery was scheduled to repair her abdomen.

By the next day, Sadie was trying to sit up. She was rolling around. She was frantically moving herself from place to place. She most definitely was not acting like she just had surgery the day before. Well, lo and behold, her hernia reappeared just days after her surgery. And it got bigger. And bigger.

After talking with Dr. Hilfiker, we agreed that Sadie needed to get a little bigger and give her abdomen some more time to heal. Her muscles were basically mush when the surgeon went in to repair her hernia the first time because of all of the trauma so there was no point going in again soon. We agreed to wait.

Then about a year later, Sadie went under the knife again for the last time.

And she came home happy as can be, and has been doing great ever since.

Today we had our last appointment with Dr. Hilfiker before we move. What do you say to someone who literally saved your child's life when the odds were not in their favor? Of course you say thanks, but only after repeated exclamations by both Sadie and Linus that "This is my tummy! This is Sadie's tummy! Do you want to see my tummy? Here's my tummy!"

We'll always have to watch Sadie to make sure she doesn't have any further complications from her surgeries. There's a 5% chance that she'll have to go under the knife again for her intestines at some point in her life, but we're taking it day by day. At this point I'm just thrilled that we have both of our children home with us and that they are doing so wonderfully. And a large part of that can be attributed to Dr. Hilfiker.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Success

This past week Brian and I traveled to the Windy City to check out his lab and to try to find a place to live. Fortunately for us (and even more fortunate for Sadie and Linus) Heidi, Katie and Gish all came to San Diego to watch the kids.

You have no idea how thrilled I was to have them all here. I am quite certain that neither Sadie nor Linus have had that much undivided attention...well...ever. Especially not when it's just me at home, so this was quite the treat for everyone.

Meanwhile, Brian and I explored Chicago which happened to be my first visit there, and I absolutely loved it! Unfortunately we were both sick so we didn't eat as much as we were planning on, but we did manage a deep dish pizza which was basically like eating two pounds of baked cheese - yum. We even managed to get in the Frank Lloyd Wright architectural tour. Then we went to Northwestern to check out Brian's lab (that is so crazy to think about - I can't believe he's going to be a professor) and to meet his fellow faculty members. The space is amazing - 8th floor with views of the lake.

Then we spent two days looking at over 50 houses until our eyes crossed. We fell in love with one the first morning, but had to look around to make sure there wasn't anything else we liked better. And nothing even compared. So imagine our surprise when our offer was accepted! Hopefully everything will go smoothly so we can move into our dream home in September. (And everyone is invited to visit!)

We're going to have to brush up on our DIY skills since this place is 90 years old, and I guess we'll have to buy a few tools too. We're so excited and happy that we had such a successful trip.

And we were so busy that there wasn't too much time to think about how much trouble the kids were getting into. A few phone calls home assured us that everyone was having a great time and that the kids were angels (which I find hard to believe). They went out for meals,

went to the zoo, the beach, the library, the park, and took walks around the neighborhood. There were very few potty training accidents and very little underwear to be washed while we were gone. They went to bed quickly and nicely, and then slept in waaayyyy past when they usually get up. I was anxious to come back home and see the kids, and to experience this new utopia.

Then we actually got home and everything went back to normal - the kids used up every pair of underwear in the house, they weren't falling asleep until well past 9, they destroyed their closet, they woke up at 5:30, they were fighting with each other and whining to me. This was definitely not the utopia I was told about. I think Katie, Heidi and Gish are going to need to schedule a return visit sometime soon.

(By the way, the first thing the kids asked us when we got home was if we built a snowman in Chicago. I guess we've been talking up the snow a little too much).

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Future golfer

For the last few days, Linus has been more obsessed with golf that ever before. Part of it is because of the US Open talk in our house, but part of it is because he's getting really good at it. He knows how to hold the club, check out where he wants the ball to go, then hits it. He needs a little work on his back swing, but overall he's turning into quite the golfer. So, don't you think Brian should take Linus to the US Open with him? I think so too.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

About time

I always know it's about time to get Linus' hair cut when he is consistently referred to as a "she" when we're out. Personally, I love his hair a little longer, but the gender confusion as well as it getting into his eyes finally dragged us back into Little Locks.

He was excited about sitting in a Jeep like Daddy's, but it was short-lived. Instead, he wanted to play trains with Sadie rather than sitting in a chair getting spritzed with water. Little did he know that there was a treat at the end of all the trauma.

They loved their first lollipops. Unfortunately Sadie didn't understand the concept of swallowing while licking, instead she just let the drool run down her chin. Nice.

Monday, June 9, 2008

Sleep(less) update

Well, now that the kids are pretty much back to normal, our sleeping arrangements are once again unacceptable. For some reason, when Sadie and Linus are alone together in a room unsupervised, they go into destruction mode.

Case in point:

Today they went into their room for a nap around 12:30. I warned them that I would shut the door if they came out of their room, and that would prevent them from having access to the fan in the hallway. They lasted about 23 seconds.

So, I shut the door. And to my surprise, instead of crying I heard rejoicing and two kids bouncing off the walls, jumping on the bed and banging into the door. After repeated attempts to calm them down and try to get them to just sit quietly they eventually did calm down. Or so I thought...

About an hour later I started to hear snickering. Then laughing. Never a good sign, I walked into a room completely destroyed with every material object in their closet, including the shelves, strewn about their room. Let me preface this by saying there is a very tall 3.5 ft gate that blocks their closet. Despite that fact, they had managed to scale the gate, slide open the closet doors, and climb into the closet, all without making any noise. Their baby memento box with all of their preemie stuff from the hospital, pictures, cards, etc. were ripped up and thrown in the corner. All of the clothes on the shelves were laying across every square inch of the floor. The shelves themselves were in the middle of the room. The CDs were out of their cases and shoved behind the dresser. In short, it was a disaster area.

Oh, and they were completely naked.

They knew I was mad.

I separated them with Linus in the guest room and Sadie in our room and told them to each sit in a corner until I could clean up the mess. Sadie wasn't very happy about it. Linus didn't seem to mind too much until he shut the door and locked it...and then absolutely freaked out. So then I had to disassemble the doorknob so I could get to my panicked child, who by then had figured out how to open the closet in that room - the closet that has all of the overflow toys in it - so he wasn't too concerned about leaving the room anymore.

It took me literally 45 minutes to clean up their mess, and in that time Sadie fell asleep in her corner. After waking her up at 4:30 because it was time for dinner, I knew bedtime was going to be a nightmare.

Just call me psychic.

It took them almost a full minute before trying to escape their room tonight. And when I checked on them 5 minutes after I shut the door, the gate was down from the closet, disassembled on Linus' bed, and they were using it as a ramp to run up and down the beds. Great.

As we speak, Sadie is sleeping in the playroom and Linus is asleep in their room. This really should not be so hard. Why can't they just fall asleep nicely in their room? I don't even care if they make it to the bed or not.

And this is on top of our wonderful potty training experiences...

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Knocked out

I personally have never participated in a boxing match. But, I have a feeling that if I were to fight, say Oscar de la Hoya, it would feel much like this past week. (Which isn't quite as bad as when I fought Evander Holyfield around this time last year, which was by far the worst 2 weeks ever). It's been a rough week on everyone, but after stomach viruses, sore throats, congestions, coughs, 103 degree fevers, and a house full of this:


I think we may actually be on the mend. Well, at least Brian and I are on the mend which is important when the kids are down for the count.

Despite feeling crummy, at least one of us still maintains her sense of humor.